Holiday Gifts: What Do Children Need?
Alison Petersen • November 29, 2024

Many children have too many toys! What do we get them for the holidays?

Children want and need their parents' time and attention, but the toy industry seems to be pulling in the opposite direction. There are toys that are advertised for children to use alone in their rooms, or electronic devices where they turn to a device instead of other humans for happiness, or plastic toys that give the message that children are not worth the real thing or best quality...where is this heading?


The following text is adapted from publications by Michael Olaf Montessori Company, a company that focuses on high-quality items that families can use together or that teach about the reach world of plants, animals, humans and the beautiful world of art. As you'll see, thoughtfully setting the stage for each level of development is a wonderful gift we can give our children.


Preparing the Environment


Constant preparing and adaption of the environment to the ever changing needs and tendencies of growing children is essential in the Montessori method of raising and educating children. The first sondering is a physical safety, and then the proper support for free movement, exploration, making choices, concentrating, creating, completing cycles - all of which contribute to optimum development.


Birth to Age 3


When parents are getting ready for their first child, they will be overwhelmed by ads on what they "need" for their child. It seems that these ads are aimed at selling things far more than providing what is really good for the child. Not only are many items over stimulating for the young child (too many objects, uncomfortably bright colors), but they also hamper the natural development of important abilities such as language (pacifiers) and movement (cribs, swings, and high chairs) and even sometimes can be dangerous.


A simple, natural and gentle environment that encourages feelings of safety, and encourages the child to communicate with others and to move - that is the superior environment for the child from birth to age 3.


A child will develop more fully - mentally, emotionally and physically - when she is free to move and explore the environment. Attention must be paid to covering plugs, taping wires to walls or floor, and removing any objects that could harm the child.


During the first years the child will absorb, like a sponge, whatever is in the environment - ugliness or beauty, coarse behavior or gentleness, good or bad language. As parents we are the first models of what it means to be a human.


Quality and beauty of the environment with books and materials are very important in attracting, satisfying and keeping a child's attention. If the child is exposed to beautiful materials and books, as an adult he will create a world with the same high standards. Toys, rattles, puzzles, tables and chairs - made of wood - foster an appreciation for nature and quality.


Sometimes we forget that daily life was first carried outdoors. This is still the instinct of a child. Just a breath of fresh air, a look at the branches moving in the wind is mesmerizing to a child. Daily walks give children the opportunity to discover plants, cracks in the road, puddles and ants. These details often are overlooked by adults but are enchanting to a child. A walk is a journey filled with discovery.


Ages 3 - 6


Children ages 3 to 6 often prefer to work on the floor instead of a table using a mat or rug. This marks the workspace just as a table would.


Toys, books and materials can be attractively arranged on trays and in baskets, on natural wood or white shelves. Each object has a special, permanent place so that the child knows where to find it and where to put it away when finished. Tables and chairs that support proper posture are important for this age.


 Organizing a Child's Environment


  1. Participation in family life: Even though from the very first days, include the child in the life of the family. Have a place in each room for a few carefully chosen belongings. The living room should have a place for to neatly organize the child's books and toys.
  2. Independence: The child's message to us at any age is "Help me to do it myself." Supporting this need shows respect for and faith in the child. Think carefully about family activities in all areas of the home and arrange each space to support independence. Add a coat tree, low clothing rod, or hook wherever the child undresses or dresses. Use a stool or bench for removing shoes and boots, inviting shelves for books, dishes or toys.
  3. Belongings: Don't put our too many toys and books at one time. Those being used by the child at the moment are sufficient. It is a good idea to rotate and take out those books and toys that have been neglected.
  4. Sense of order: Everyone at every age is affected by their environment. A child who joins the environment, and learns to select a few things, will be aided in many ways, such as creating good work habits and concentration. Rather than tossing toys into a large toy box, it is more satisfying to the child to place them neatly on shelves, on wooden trays or in small baskets. This also makes putting things away more logical and enjoyable.
  5. Cultural emphasis: Make your home a reflection of your unique part of the world. Include music, books, foods, crafts, and stories from your parents and grandparents lives. Your child will learn that everyone is connected and he is a member of an international community.








Children playing outside
By Alison Petersen September 10, 2025
One of the many beautiful and empowering aspects of Montessori education is how it helps children understand themselves as valued members of a community. A key way this happens is through Care of the Environment, a form of Practical Life work that provides children with the opportunity to tend to the spaces they live in each day. By participating in this care, children begin to feel at home in their classroom, school, and community. They feel a sense of ownership and take pride in their surroundings, and in the process, develop a deep sense of responsibility and connection. The Outdoor Environment When considering the children’s environment, we're not just referring to indoor spaces. In Montessori, the outdoor environment is not an afterthought. Instead, we consider the outdoors to be a natural and essential extension of the prepared indoor space. For young children, who are absorbing everything from the world around them, the time spent outdoors supports development in profound and lasting ways. For older children and adolescents, outdoor spaces can be a place for self-regulation and deep focus. Now more than ever, when children tend to spend increasing amounts of time indoors, reconnecting with natural spaces is vital for physical, emotional, and cognitive health. Why Being Outdoors Matters Research, including the work of Richard Louv in The Last Child in the Woods, highlights a growing body of evidence that time spent in nature is critical to the healthy development of both children and adults. In Montessori, we recognize that outdoor time is not a break from learning. Rather, the natural world is a powerful space for movement, language, social development, and sensory integration. Time outdoors is learning time. Young children are in the midst of sensitive periods for order, language, movement, and sensory refinement. These windows of opportunity allow for an intense connection with nature that nourishes the whole child. Plus, the natural world’s beauty, order, and rhythm speak to our deepest human tendencies: to explore, understand, and belong. The Adults’ Role Outside Outdoor spaces become a rich environment for observation, guidance, and connection. Children are often more socially expressive outdoors, making this a critical time for observing group dynamics and supporting social-emotional growth. It’s also a time to model joyful, playful behavior. Children need to see that being human includes lightness and laughter, and outdoor time offers the perfect opportunity for us to play alongside children while still maintaining an appropriate level of guidance. We can also help children understand that different environments call for different behaviors. What is appropriate outdoors differs from what is expected indoors. As children gain different experiences, they come to understand how to conduct themselves with grace and courtesy on a woodland trail and a garden bed, or how to navigate the intricacies of fort building and group game dynamics. Montessori children learn to move through different scenes and scenarios with increasing awareness, sensitivity, and confidence. Setting Up Outdoor Spaces We want our outdoor spaces to feel like a true extension of our classrooms, not a break from them. As such, we are intentional about how the outdoor spaces are developmentally appropriate, deepen children’s understanding of cause and effect, and nurture a sense of order. We want activities in the outdoor space to have a purposeful intent so they support the integration of children’s will, intellect, and coordinated movement. At home, outdoor activities can provide open-ended play opportunities that encourage exploration and independence, as well as ways to involve children in purposeful projects. Here are some ideas to get started! Practical Life Provide tools for cleaning tasks: sweeping paths, washing outdoor furniture, scrubbing flower pots, washing the car, and wiping off outdoor toys. Encourage gardening: planting seeds, watering, weeding, harvesting herbs or vegetables. Offer animal care opportunities: refilling bird feeders, walking the dog, playing fetch. Sensorial Exploration Include sensory gardens with fragrant herbs, soft leaves, and vibrant flowers—like lavender, mint, and lamb’s ear—that invite children to touch, smell, and observe. Create a collection space for sticks, stones, pinecones, shells, and seed pods. Observation and Nature Study Set up bird feeders, weather tools, and insect hotels. Create small areas for quiet observation with a bench, blanket, or hammock. Add sensory elements like wind chimes or water features to create a calming atmosphere. Curricular Connections Math: count petals, measure plant growth, sort leaves by size and shape. Science: Tools like magnifying glasses and microscopes help them explore soil, insects, and plant life up close. Composting systems, rainwater collection, or native plantings foster environmental stewardship. Art: Natural materials become mediums for creativity, such as twigs for weaving, leaves for prints, and landscapes for sketching. Language: Storytelling, reading under a tree, or labeling plants and garden tools strengthens vocabulary and communication while keeping learning grounded in the real world. Observe and Adapt As with all prepared environments, the key is observation. What captures our children’s curiosity? Where are they returning again and again? What challenges are they facing? By observing carefully, we can adjust to our children’s needs and interests. A prepared environment supports the whole child and helps them feel connected, not just to the earth, but to themselves and their community.
By Alison Petersen September 5, 2025
Starting school marks an important milestone for both children and their parents. Transitioning into a Montessori environment—with its distinctive approach to learning—can bring a mix of excitement and uncertainty. At Pincushion Hill Montessori School, we’re committed to helping families navigate this change with confidence and ease. Talk About What to Expect Children tend to feel more at ease when they know what’s coming. Take some time to talk with your child about what a typical day at a Montessori school might be like. Let them know they'll have the freedom to choose activities that interest them and that they'll be learning alongside children of different ages. Explain that their teachers—often called guides—are there to support their learning and exploration, not just give directions. You might say something like: “You’ll start the day by saying hello to your teacher and friends, then you can pick something fun to work on—maybe building with blocks or practicing writing. Sometimes you’ll work alone, and other times you’ll do things with others.” Encourage Independence at Home Montessori education places a strong emphasis on independence. To help your child adjust smoothly, start encouraging independence at home. Simple tasks like getting dressed, putting away toys, or helping set the table can boost their confidence. When children realize they can do things on their own, they’re better prepared for the choices and responsibilities they’ll encounter in the classroom. These kinds of activities also reflect the Montessori idea of “learning by doing,” which is at the heart of the method. Create a Consistent Routine Routines help children feel safe and lower anxiety during new experiences. In the weeks leading up to the first day, try to follow a consistent morning schedule—waking up at the same time, having a healthy breakfast, and getting dressed on their own. You can also involve your child in getting ready the night before by letting them choose their outfit and pack their school bag. Talking about what they’re excited for the next day can also build a sense of anticipation and comfort. These small routines help foster responsibility and a smooth start to each school day. Get Ready Emotionally, Too Starting school is a big step—not just for your child, but for you as well. It’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions: pride, nervousness, maybe even a little sadness. Keep in mind that your child is likely to sense your mood, so staying calm and positive can help reassure them. If you’re feeling uneasy, remind yourself of the many benefits of Montessori education—its focus on nurturing independence, curiosity, and a love of learning. Trust in the process, and in the guides who are there to support your child as they begin this new adventure.