Tips To Ease Separation Anxiety
Alison Petersen • August 27, 2024

The start to a new school year is an exciting, yet stressful time for parents and children. The anticipation of the first day, adjusting to routines, learning expectations and being in a new place all day can be stress inducing for many children. Both parents and children deserve a positive start to the day. Parents need to trust that their child is in the right place.


Before you approach your new school day mornings, start here:

  1. Help your child anticipate change
  2. Give a quick goodbye


Help your child anticipate change.

First, about a week before starting a new school, take your child to the school to visit. Give your child the opportunity to explore the classroom, walk the hallways and play on the playground. It's important they make connections and associate their new learning environment with positivity and possibility.


Give a quick goodbye.

If your child begins to cry as you try to leave the school, you will always feel that you cannot leave the school until he stops crying. Every parent feels this tug, and every teacher is empathetic to that, but that will never happen. Your child will never stop crying if you are still there. They will only stop crying after you have left, which means your presence only prolongs their tears.

Therefore, you must choose positive emotions for both you and your child. Communicate with your body language that school is a safe place and that you are happy your child is there. So often, the most anxiety comes from a self-fulfilling prophecy on behalf of the parent. Then, the child feels Mom’s worry and thinks to himself, “If Mom is scared of leaving me here, there must be something wrong with this place!” Do not let your child pick up these nervous cues from you.

And remain consistent every single day. Your child is trying to understand the way the world works. He’s wondering all the time, How does this work? What do people do? This is why routine makes so much sense to him and why he begins to crave it as such. He can anticipate what comes next, and that pleases him.

This is also why changing a routine — even in any small way that seems insignificant to you — can be very upsetting to a child. Sneaking in one more hug or one more kiss or a lingering goodbye because you want that will only disrupt your child’s routine and become a setback for the both of you. Maintain a quick goodbye.

Doing things the same way every single time gives your child the deep sense of security he needs to thrive. If your family is experiencing separation anxiety, don’t fight it or be frustrated by it. Lean into the consistency of routine, and trust the results.


When choosing a school for your child you've made the decision to trust the faculty and administration. You have told your child "You're in the right place." It's important each day they feel they are in the right place and have a sense of belonging. And, you should feel that way, too. Because your child does belong, and your child is going to do great.




Supporting Your Child's Fresh Start At A Montessori School

By Alison Petersen • September 5, 2025
Starting school marks an important milestone for both children and their parents. Transitioning into a Montessori environment—with its distinctive approach to learning—can bring a mix of excitement and uncertainty. At Pincushion Hill Montessori School, we’re committed to helping families navigate this change with confidence and ease. Talk About What to Expect Children tend to feel more at ease when they know what’s coming. Take some time to talk with your child about what a typical day at a Montessori school might be like. Let them know they'll have the freedom to choose activities that interest them and that they'll be learning alongside children of different ages. Explain that their teachers—often called guides—are there to support their learning and exploration, not just give directions. You might say something like: “You’ll start the day by saying hello to your teacher and friends, then you can pick something fun to work on—maybe building with blocks or practicing writing. Sometimes you’ll work alone, and other times you’ll do things with others.” Encourage Independence at Home Montessori education places a strong emphasis on independence. To help your child adjust smoothly, start encouraging independence at home. Simple tasks like getting dressed, putting away toys, or helping set the table can boost their confidence. When children realize they can do things on their own, they’re better prepared for the choices and responsibilities they’ll encounter in the classroom. These kinds of activities also reflect the Montessori idea of “learning by doing,” which is at the heart of the method. Create a Consistent Routine Routines help children feel safe and lower anxiety during new experiences. In the weeks leading up to the first day, try to follow a consistent morning schedule—waking up at the same time, having a healthy breakfast, and getting dressed on their own. You can also involve your child in getting ready the night before by letting them choose their outfit and pack their school bag. Talking about what they’re excited for the next day can also build a sense of anticipation and comfort. These small routines help foster responsibility and a smooth start to each school day. Get Ready Emotionally, Too Starting school is a big step—not just for your child, but for you as well. It’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions: pride, nervousness, maybe even a little sadness. Keep in mind that your child is likely to sense your mood, so staying calm and positive can help reassure them. If you’re feeling uneasy, remind yourself of the many benefits of Montessori education—its focus on nurturing independence, curiosity, and a love of learning. Trust in the process, and in the guides who are there to support your child as they begin this new adventure.

How Can Parents Support Montessori Principles at Home?

By Alison Petersen • August 22, 2025
Practicing Montessori At Home