Pincushion Hill Montessori School
Toileting: The Montessori Way
Alison Petersen • Jan 23, 2024

The toilet learning process for young children takes time but doesn't have to feel daunting. Here are some key aspects of toileting the Montessori way.

As parents we quickly learn that children have control over three things: eating, sleeping and toileting. Rather than engage in power struggles, however, we can help children develop the skills they need to manage and gain mastery over these essential aspects of life .


In Montessori learning communities, young children learn how to prepare snack, fall asleep with assistance, and dress themselves. In addition, they learn how to control their sphincter and stay dry. This process, which we call "toilet learning" or "toilet awareness" takes time, yet it is a vital part of becoming independent.


Because we are helping children with an important aspect of their independence, we try to avoid the terminology "toilet training." After all, we aren't training our children like we might train a dog! Rather we are helping children feel the success of becoming fully independent as they become masters of their own functions.


The process takes time but doesn't have to feel daunting. Here are some key aspects of toileting the Montessori way.


Establish Body Awareness


Toilet awareness starts at birth. From the earliest day of life, we talk to our infants about what is happening as we change their diapers. We might say "Your diaper is wet from urine," or "I am wiping your poop off your bottom."


To help our infants become aware of being wet or soiled, it's best to use cloth diapers. Disposable diapers are very effective and wicking away moisture, which leads to children not connecting the act of eliminating pee with the feeling of being wet. As children shift into toddlerhood, they can begin to wear cloth underwear.


Useful phrases:

  • "Does your diaper feel wet or dry? Is there poop in your diaper?"
  • "Your underpants feel so heavy! You must have had a lot of pee come out."


Collaborate


When a child is wet, we help them to the bathroom and collaborate with changing out of their wet underwear. We allow them to sit on hte toilet to see if any urine is left that can be pushed or released into the toilet. Then once they have on dry underwear, they return to their activity.


Children need to be involved in the toileting and changing process. They can assist in getting the clean underwear or diaper and putting any soiled items in their appropriate place. This gives children the feeling of some power or control in what is happening.


Useful phrases:

  • "You can hold your shirt up while I pull down your pants."
  • "You can open the Velcro on this side of your diaper and I'll open the Velcro on that side."
  • "I'll have a turn to wipe your bottom and then you can have a turn."


No Tricks or Treats


We offer the toilet, but we never force children to sit on the toilet. We also avoid asking children if they would like to sit on the toilet. There is a happy middle in which we suggest that they sit on the toilet or let them know it is time to sit on the toilet. Ultimately, we trust that children will incorporate this part of daily life into their routine. Young children love the consistency of routines, so we ensure, from the very beginning, that toileting is a regular part of the day .


Bribing, reward charts and punishments may have short-term results, but do not work for the long-term goal of helping children develop independence, self-assurance, and mastery of this essential part of their humanity. We allow children the time to be successful. Rather than scolding or over-congratulation, we know that children will learn through experience and feel proud of their accomplishments.


Useful phrases:

  • "It's time to sit on the toilet."
  • "You peed in the toilet. You did it all by yourself."


Respect the Process


Often when adults change children it is all done so quickly that children aren't aware of their bodily functions. Rather than rushing, we take time to explain what is happening and offer opportunities for collaboration.


It's showing the utmost respect to children when we help them learn how to do something for themselves. When children able to respond to their body's needs, they are one step to closer to being fully functioning, independent young people.



Children playing

Social Benefits of A Montessori Education

By Alison Petersen • 17 May, 2024
The Montessori approach, pioneered by Dr. Maria Montessori over 100 years ago, emphasizes not just academic achievement but also the social and emotional growth of the child. Montessori is known for creating independent, self-sufficient and intrinsically motivated children. However, being independent does not mean a child is socially isolated or lacks social opportunities. In the Montessori classroom, you will notice that social development takes place in many forms. Some of these include: Mixed-Age Classrooms One distinctive feature of Montessori classrooms is the presence of mixed-age groups. Children are not confined to interacting solely with peers of the same age, allowing them to develop essential social skills such as cooperation, empathy, and leadership. Older students often serve as role models and mentors, while younger ones benefit from observing and learning from their more experienced peers. Respect for Individual Differences Montessori education recognizes and celebrates the unique qualities of each child. The emphasis on individualized learning allows children to progress at their own pace, fostering a sense of self-worth and acceptance. This approach cultivates an environment where differences are not only tolerated but embraced, promoting a culture of inclusivity and respect. Developing Independence and Responsibility Montessori classrooms are designed to encourage independence and personal responsibility. Children are empowered to make choices about their learning, manage their time, and take care of their environment. These responsibilities contribute to the development of a strong work ethic and a sense of accountability, both of which are crucial in social settings. Nurturing Conflict Resolution Skills In a Montessori setting, conflict is viewed as an opportunity for growth rather than a problem to be avoided. Children are taught and guided in resolving conflicts peacefully, promoting effective communication and negotiation skills. Learning how to express feelings, listen actively, and find mutually beneficial solutions equips Montessori graduates with essential tools for navigating social interactions in the future. Community and Global Awareness Montessori education extends beyond the classroom walls, encouraging children to explore and understand their broader community and the world. Through projects, discussions, and cultural studies, students develop a global perspective and an appreciation for diversity. This awareness fosters a sense of responsibility toward others and a commitment to making positive contributions to society. Cultivating a Love for Learning Together Montessori classrooms promote a love for learning that is collaborative and cooperative. Children engage in group activities, discussions, and projects, fostering a sense of shared enthusiasm for discovery. This collaborative learning environment sets the stage for the development of strong social bonds and a lifelong love for learning in a community setting. The social benefits of Montessori education ripple far beyond the classroom, shaping individuals who are not only academically adept but also compassionate, collaborative, and socially conscious. Interested in observing a Montessori classroom? Schedule a tour today.
Montessori in the kitchen

Montessori At Home

By Alison Petersen • 10 May, 2024
Montessori education is most commonly associated with Montessori schools, but it's not limited to those four walls. Anyone – parents, caregivers, educators – can make a Montessori environment at home. While there's no manual for raising a child, there is one for creating an environment where any child can use their inherent ability to learn through the world around them. For over 100 years, parents have used the Montessori philosophy of education developed by Dr. Maria Montessori to help their children physically, cognitively, emotionally, and socially explore their expanding world. Parents do not need to feel pressured to incorporate Montessori into every aspect of the home. Start with one area, and watch your child become independent and eager to be a contributing member of the family. Over time, add another area and then another. Below are some suggestions in how to incorporate Montessori philosophy and the prepared environment into different areas of your home. The Prepared Environment at Home The prepared environment for the child is not a concept that is exclusive to the classroom. You can take a few small steps to create a well-prepared Montessori environment in your own home that will foster a sense of independence and self-sufficiency within your child. In the Car Make sure you keep the inside of your car tidy and neat. Avoid having trash or leftover food lying around. Allow the child to buckle themselves up if they can. Play child-friendly music or classical music. In the Bedroom Select a bed that the child can easily access and encourage them to make their own bed. Select appropriate toys and place them on shelves that they can reach on their own. Encourage them to keep their room looking neat and beautiful. You can also put their clothing and shoes in a place where they can easily access them so that they can dress themselves. In the Kitchen Invest in some kitchen tools and utensils that are child-sized, so they easily fit in the child’s hands. Consider a kitchen ladder or stool so that the child can help you prepare meals. Use real plates and cups as opposed to cardboard or plastic ones. Have cleaning tools the child can use, so if they spill anything, they can tidy up after themselves. In the Playroom Utilize child-sized furniture. Arrange the room so that any artwork or shelves are at the eye level of the child. Have a table and chairs for them to do work. Try to focus on toys and materials made from wood and natural materials. Establish a rule that the child can use one toy or activity at a time, and then put it away neatly when finished. If you have a lot of toys, a good option is to rotate them, changing it up every now and then so that the child has choice, but isn’t overwhelmed. In the Bathroom Place a stool next to the sink and toilet so that the child can access them without assistance. Walk the child through a good hygiene routine and give them the space to do it on their own. Explain that they should take pride in being clean and neat. Encourage them to keep the bathroom clean. Outdoor Space Aim to have a place for your child to play outside if possible. Set up some child sized furniture or a safe play structure. Explain to them that it is important to be gentle with the nature around them, not to pull on leaves or flowers, instead to observe with their eyes. Gardening is a nice bonus, it’s a great sensorial activity, and the child will be able to observe nature at work and feel pride in keeping their garden beautiful.
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